Okay, after looking at the '91 and '92 diagrams turns out they're the same wiring, albeit the diagrams are drawn a bit differently. Power is at one side of the coil with the white wire from the battery then the white/green side makes ground in the ECU completing the circuit and firing the coil in the relay. It's the only way that could work like a proper relay.
I also followed #3 of the ignition switch to ECU pin #36, which is the "ignition on signal". I'm guessing this is what tells pin #4 to make ground/fire he relay. This #3 of the ignition switch also powers up the ignition coil and the resistor/condenser.
My head hurts from looking at all these diagrams.