Man, this was hard to read... my gf's B14 SE-R just did the exact same thing 2 days ago....
she noticed the guage creeping up, and pulled off the fwy just as it lost power and started spewing white smoke.
got it home and i took a look; radiator neck melted (plastic!!!)
tried to pull of a plug wire- of course, melted to the head... awesome
we're in the same boat...
she also said as it lost power, that she heard an electrical type crackling noise...?
maybe coolant entering the combustion chamber from the warping head and shorting?