Thanks to char's post.
Found the answer on the other forum. figured if someone searches, they might want the quick fix answer:
I couldnt get mine to go in either, the pipe itself is slightly too long and hits inside of the header, wont allow you to tighten the bolt on the tube.
"Dont bother with a block off kit. There is a hose going from the BPT to the EGR, just pull that off and plug it up on the BPT side. That will stop the EGR from opening and sucking air in through the pipe. You can just use a screw to do it.
The one with the two lines going to it is the BPT which is what regulates the EGR. One of the tubes normally connects to the EGR, but as you see I disconnected the tube From The EGR and plugged it, leaving the EGR side open. Doing this basically stops the EGR from opening and drawing in any exhaust gasses... a very smart thing to do if you dont have the tube connected to the header.
The next thing you need to do is the resistor to stop a code from coming up..."