I run a Koyo R1977, SSAC unwrapped (for now) and CVT (which generates heat). I live in a tropical climate, with ambient temps between 27 - 35 C.
My coolant temps are between 80 and 92 C depoending on fast or slow traffic. I use a HKS Fan controller, which takes readings from the ECU and makes the Mishimoto slimfans kick in at 96 C and switch off at 92 C. AIT´s are around 28 C driving (Injen CAI) and 41 C (after starting a warm engine). I have an oem stat but have a Nismo one at hand.
I need to put a bigger tranny cooler cuz the CVT gets too hot in slow traffic and the Koyortad has no tranny-oil passages, as the oem rad did. The engine oil/coolant temps stay steadier than the CVT-temps in my case.
This as a comparison to youir situation.
When I read your info, I feel that your AEM is not getting the correct readings thus showing low digits throwing off your optimal tuning possibilities.