I don't see why this is such a goddamn difficult subject. The downpipe goes with the o2 housing. If you have a T25 downpipe and a T25 o2 housing, then you can use that combination with either a bluebird manifold, or a gti-r manifold, and either a t25 or t28 turbo. If you have a T28 downpipe, and a T28 o2 housing, then you can do the same thing. I've done it and it works fine. If you want to use t28 turbos with t25 j-pipes, you have to ream out the holes slightly. It takes 5 minutes, i hardly even consider it a modification.
So basically, use matching downpipes and 02 housings and you will be fine. End thread.