Hey Ben, I knew about the Turbo FX solution. but first let me address your opening comment:
"It's not just the durometer of the bushing, the shape of it matters maybe more. The stock ones are oval to help minimize the binding. More deflection is better."
Take a look at the pictures of the TDMimports bushings here:
http://www.sr20-forum.com/tdmimports-kuo-s-garage/66634-sale-tdmimports-b13-p10-rear-adjustable-arms.html
You'll notice the TDMimport rubber bushings are "oval" like stock, and may even allow more deflection. They are definitely not flat ended like your typical polyurethane bushing.
What caused me concern about heim joints, was what javier b14 posted in his Turbo FX solution thread.
"Quote Originally Posted by javierb14 View Post
They will definitely transmit more noise and vibration from the suspension to the chassis...this is more of a "race car" part since the bushings and their damping characteristics are being removed. Streetable is relative term, I would run them in a daily and just turn the radio up a bit."
This caused me to do more research on heim joints, including actually talking to track drivers and mechanics who work on track cars. What javierb14 said is true.
The consensus seemed to be, Unless you have a dedicated track car, the benefits of heim joints for this type of application do not seem to out weigh the negatives of noise/vibration and especially wear.
Going through the B13, B14, B15 Suspension Information thread, Mike Kojina didn't find that even polyurethane bushings were a significant issue. A lot of what Steve Foltz posted had to do with the 240SX rear end suspension bind. It seemed everyone agreed that the trailing arm was the problem in a B13. Here are quotes from Steve and others.
"Quote Originally Posted by 98sr20ve
You do relize that you really don't want to replace every control arm bushing in the rear with ES bushing. Leave the trailing link one alone. Don't do es on that. Search around the site about suspension bind and you will find the info."
"Quote Originally Posted by Johnand
There was a thread that I posted a while back about the rear suspension bind and the consensous was the trailing arm frame bushing should remain rubber as it need to move fore and aft."
So I decided I didn't want heim joints, and that I would be fine with rubber bushings in the parallel arms as long the trailing arm large bushings were stock. That's why I went with the TDMimports parts.
We should probably start a heim joint vs bushing thread, but I think it's a matter of what your goals are.
By the way, I think you made the right decision when you left the ES bushing in your rear hubs. That is the Progress rear sway bar bracket mounting point so I'm can imagine a lot of stress is placed on that bushing. I was also wondering if you ever followed up on the possible difference between the SE-R and the GA16 B13 trailing arms.