yes i was overthinking it...i had tried everything using different grounds and using the ECU ground to try and get the values to match but never had luck. I stopped trying to get the wideband working with nismotronic for a couple months until today..
did some looking around and saw this diagram:
so i then started to think the brown wire on the AEM harness may be the one that needs re-grounding.
...thats when i fried the aem
i have a new aem coming tomorrow. After i wire the white wire to the adc input and the black wire to the ecu ground (or IM) i will check the software to see how far off the numbers are..
Ill be back
thanks for the help guys